About Us

Victoria, BC, Canada
This blog began as a modern "baby book" for our first child, Finlay, who was born in December of 2010. The recent addition of Seamus, born in January of 2013, has meant continued efforts to put into words and pictures his early years. We also use this forum to catalog our family life: two loving partners, two beautiful kids, car-free, child-centred, attachment-focused, with a love of food and health thrown into the mix!

Halloween

October 31, 2014



Hey look, it's the Lorax and a Lion.


Shay was a little upset about wearing a costume; he would only relax if he could have his toothbrush.


Fin was getting into character: "I am the Lorax and I speak for CANDY!"


All ready to go!

Pumpkin Patch

October 19, 2014


We rode to the Pumpkin Patch (Galey Farms) and, before we got too far, they were really excited to sit on this hay.


On the tractor, Shay was upset that he could not drive the "wheel-wheel".


This one.


Taking a ride on the "Cow Train".  Fin is pretty excited.


Shay is also pretty pumped.


Also, a little concerned.


No worries, daddy will go for a ride, too.


Cow Train.


These guys refuse to pose for a cute kids-and-pumpkins pic.


How much has he grown?  Check out and compare with the picture from last year.

Around the House

Early October, 2014



Baking in the morning.


Playing with our guitars.


Wearing his big brothers hand-me-downs.  They are huge on him!


Making pizza sauce with the bounty from our garden.


Final days of the year lounging in the backyard in the hot afternoon.


Shay-Shay and his new balance bike.


Pretty exited at first, but then frustrated that he couldn't keep up with his big bro.


Autumn crafts.


Reading books - he was just sitting on the couch 'reading' to himself.

Rifflandia

September 12-14, 2014

Fin got to go into the media area for "The Born Ruffians"

Shay and Mama at "The Born Ruffians"

He hears the song that he knows ("Cecilia")

Re-fuel.  Festivals are about music AND food.

More food.

And naps.

And lay-down-air-drumming/dancing.

And naps.

Shay can really kick.  He was only 20 months old and his footwork was more impressive than the 6 year-olds he was playing with.

Shay is all about this ball.

And some o's.  He was also playing a beat with the chopstick.

Fin wants to see.

Amy & Alyx hung out with the kids for a while so that we could have some drinks and enjoy the festival solo.

"Kid-landia" had an awesome craft this year.

Cool dude.

Shay wanted to walk up and down this thing over and over.

At the stage for "The Zolas"

It was a Robot-themed day.  His shirt says "The Robots Made Me Do It".


All that dancing is exhausting.


Dreaming of kicking the beach-ball while "The New Pornographers" play.

Getting a silly picture together.


They did not want to go home.

Thoughts

November 17, 2014



Thoughts.

We are filled with them.

Sometimes we are distracted by the "should be's": I should be reading for that class; I should be cleaning the kitchen; I should be finishing that project.

We are overwhelmed.

Sometimes we are consumed by the "if only's": If I only had x, I would be better off; if only I got x done, I would feel as though I completed something; if only I was x, I would be a good parent/partner/worker.

We are confused.

Tyler and I have, as of late, become more conscious of these thoughts.  It is being conscious of something that brings us the motivation to act, mobilize, and uncover some 'untested feasibility'.

Our absence from the blog has been due to our presence in our lives.

We have realized, that when we reflect on our present, and we live our moments rather than worrying about what should or could be, we see what we have and how wonderful it really it.  Our lives, marriage, kids, home, work/school, friends, and all that we do, is happening right now; we stopped waiting for it and we are trying to live it.




My latest thoughts about the kids:

- Finlay is growing and changing so quickly!  He is a little boy (he has decided, what that means is still to be determined).  He goes to school.  He cuts veggies for the soup with a real knife.  He explains things to the toddler... and the cat.  He tells stories.  He invents games.  He has BIG feelings.

- I love, love, love the way Seamus insists on sitting on the lap of whomever is reading a book.  Sometime, if I am laying down on the rug to read, he tries to sit on my chest.

- I love the smell of Shay's little head, even though he has left that baby smell behind.  He is a toddler now.

- I think it is so interesting that both Shay and Fin are trying the same physical experiments, such as standing on a bucket in the slippery tub.  Where Fin is cautious and careful, Shay is curious and adventurous.

- Fin is picking up new habits and ideas from school, and this is really neat to see.  He says, "no, thank you" when he no longer wants a tickle.

- Shay has taken up biting or hitting Fin whenever he feels the need to defend himself.  I don't blame him and it is difficult to intervene and discuss this behaviour when I can't stop smiling at him.

- When we ask Shay to STOP playing the toilet/biting his brother/standing on the dishwasher door, he says, in an exasperated tone, "okay" and slumps his shoulder and walks away with a silly pout that is all for show because he is beaming and smiling behind the act.

- Shay is talking.  Lots of new works all of the time.  He like to say "Help Mommy/Daddy", "Walk", and "Wheel, wheel".

- Shay has just started to say is name.  The first time he tried it, he was surprised he could do it.  Then he got excited and started saying "Shay-Shay, YAY!  Shay-Shay, YAY!" while throwing his arms up to cheer.

- When Shay laughs, you can see all of his little teeth.

- It amazing me that Fin can dress himself - after years of dressing and undressing him every day, sometimes a few times in one day, he can pick out his cloths and put them on.  He strips down and gets into and out of bath, as well.  This is huge.

- Fin seeks his independence - he wants to do up his own coat - but he also still loves to be my baby (ah-goo!).

- Fin is a story-teller.  He is also fascinated by story-telling.  He gravitates to stories heavy with politics.

- They play together - they fight too!  Sometimes I am referee.



We will be adding some pictures, and perhaps some words, about the last few months.  Check back, and back, if you please.