About Us

Victoria, BC, Canada
This blog began as a modern "baby book" for our first child, Finlay, who was born in December of 2010. The recent addition of Seamus, born in January of 2013, has meant continued efforts to put into words and pictures his early years. We also use this forum to catalog our family life: two loving partners, two beautiful kids, car-free, child-centred, attachment-focused, with a love of food and health thrown into the mix!

Introducing Seamus Julian Carr

January 24, 2013

So we settled on a middle name: introducing Seamus Julian Carr.  We have now ventured beyond the house.  We have made some morning excursions as a family.  A walk around the block, a trip to Toddler Yoga, and a visit to kinder-gym have been the main events.  Seamus mostly hibernates when we are out.

We wear him in the cuddly wrap.

He is pretty cosy in there.

We saw the moon on a walk and Fin wanted to reach out and touch it. "Moon high!  I want moon!"

Adventures in balance for the toddler and the freshly 25 pounds lighter Mama.

Tyler is trying to get more pictures of me and newborn Seamus than we managed to get with me and newborn Fin.

Hilary came over post-adventure in the Southern Hemisphere to meet the new addition.

Mama and kiddies.

Seamus post-bath and loving the warm steamy room.  Look at those lips! 

Things are going really well.  We have some success with sleep but we are pretty tired.  Nursing is still a challenge for all involved, but we'll get there!  Seamus is awake more often now and we are loving his eyes (which appear to have some green and blue in them) and his funny newborn expressions.  Really looking forward to sharing him with the family who arrives next week.

Bed, Bath and Beyond (actually its really just baths and beds these days)

January 18, 2013

Day 5 and we are in love and so very tired.

For all of the time we spend in bed you'd think we would feel somewhat rested.  The other night, both little ones were up for 2 and a half hours in the middle of the night.  At least they were up at the same time!

We discovered that we haven't yet acquired the skills to look after two kids at the same time, even when we are both home.  It'll be quite the learning curve. As we begin to acquire these new skills we have been lucky to have friends offering support in many ways and we are so fortunate and thankful to those who have offered to make us some food, clean up the kitchen or come by to play with Fin so we can have a rest.



Seamus getting his first bath.  He was a little unhappy at first but quickly relaxed and enjoyed his time in the tub.


Seamus is always happy with a pinkie finger to suck on.

Finlay lending a hand with bath time - He is turning out to be an amazingly loving older brother

As Dad towels off Seamus. You can watch Seamus' patience wearing thin. Its been a couple years since Dad has taken care of an infant. He is slow at things. 

"Come on Dad, lets get on with it. I'm getting chilly"

"Are you serious? You still haven't got that diaper on? That's it.. I'm gonna cry!"

Again, Finlay is happy to help whenever he can.  Here he is helping butter the baby with coconut oil.

Fin is loving his cuddle time with his new baby brother.

Finlay sitting on the bed watching Uta,our midwife, checking up with Mom and Seamus.

Dad and Seamus

Seamus' cute little feet.  He has the longest little toes. 

When Seamus was getting his feet stamped by the Midwife Finlay really wanted to get his done too. So after Uta stamped Seamus' feet Dad did Finlay's.  Lyndze and I can't believe how big Finlay seems all of the sudden.  When did that happen?

You quickly forget what an amazing feeling it is to have a little person like Seamus cuddled up on your chest. Their quick little breaths, tiny flailing arms, small snorts and high pitched cries.  So incredible, and it feels like you can see them growing on a daily basis. Have to get these cuddles in while you can.

Finlay waiting to go out on one of his play dates. He has his "Best Big Bro" shirt on.

Finlay really is an amazing big brother already. We tried in many ways to prepare him for the arrival of Seamus but in reality he had no idea how his life was about to change.  He was the centre of our world for two years and now he has to share us with the squirmy crying thing.  
Our love may have grown but what stays the same is the hours in the day and what has changed is the hours of our time that we have to commit to Fin right now.  And yet with all these changes in place and even with Seamus taking much of the time Lyndze has to offer to Finlay he has proven to be such a loving big brother.  He speaks in whispers when we tell him Seamus is sleeping. He crawls up beside us on the couch just to give Seamus a gentle kiss the cheek. He wants to help with baths and has a genuine interest in his new little brother.

 I am sure there will be moments where he loses his cool or has a fit and just wants his old life back. But for now he is being such an amazing big brother. I really don't know what I should have expected. Fin has always been a gentle soul and we are so excited for him to help raise Seamus!  

So, on we go to more sleepless nights and new adventures. Family will be starting to arrive on the island in the coming days and we can't wait for them to meet Seamus!

Night and Day

January 14, 2013

Today, at 2:37am, we welcomed little Seamus into our family.  He came quickly, after only two and a half hours of labour, and was born at home in the birthing tub (just like I wanted!).  It was really an ideal, short, and beautiful birthing experience.  Night and day from Finlay's entry into the world but both were amazing!

Here is Tyler and Seamus just a 1/2 hour old.

Seamus and his mama, post-shower and comfy in bed.

Kisses.

Getting his measurements - 8.10 
He seems so much smaller than Finlay did at that age.

Uta guessed his weight right on.

Another big foot with long skinny toes.  He has long skinny fingers too.

The brothers meet.  Finlay woke up shortly after Seamus was born.  After the babe and I were settled in bed, Finlay came in to meet "his baby" brother.  The look of amazement and excitement on his face was incredible.  He said "baby home."

He just couldn't take his eyes off of the baby.

He touched the squirmy little thing so gently.

We tried a first cuddle but Fin wasn't really ready for it so it was short-lived.

Later in the morning, before heading off on a playdate, Finlay only wanted to see and talk about the baby.  We told him the name and he is already calling his brother "baby Shay."

We are all alert and feeling really good!  So excited about the whole experience so far.

Back at Home

January 5, 2013

I am officially on Maternity Leave!  Yay!  (and much Finlay-clapping)

I am really happy and eager to make the adjustment.  I love being home with Fin!  We are already going out into the community and looking for fun things to do.  We found (I say we, but it was really all Fin) a sweet kinder-gym just a few blocks from home that runs on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.  While there, we bumped into some moms and kids from our Mothering Touch baby and toddler groups.  That was nice!  Fin was feeling a little shy and maybe just a bit nervous that I might leave him there so we stuck close together as we got to know the space, the other kids, and parents.  I really enjoyed everyone I spoke with - can't wait to return next week!

So I have been experiencing plenty of contractions and false starts with labour.  Uta explains that I'm just doing some of the work ahead of time and that it will be beneficial in the long run.  It does make me a little anxious though.  I'm in no rush to go into labour but I hope that the next contraction is the real thing!

In the mean time, we are trying to nest and clean and cook and get ready but I really need to try and relax and relent to the constant messes.  The most common advice I have received (about having two kids) is to relax about your cleaning standards and cook simple for a little while, at least.  I guess it'll be like when I first went back to work and we couldn't keep the house clean or find the time to eat.  It's going to take some time and some practice.

Anyway, I am hoping the next post will be "Billy"'s birth announcement!

Please don't wish me luck - I am made to do this!  But keep our little family in your thoughts as we embark on this new journey!  We are all pretty excited and I know that, even if the floors aren't clean, we are ready!

Uta checks Finlay's "baby" with the ultrasound.  Fin likes our check-ups and wants his turn too!  We listened to Finlay's heart and it sure sounds like it is ready to be a big brother's heart.

Also, here is a short video of Finlay busting a move in the kitchen yesterday afternoon:



It's a New Year

January 2, 2013

I can't tell you how excited I am about this new year!  A much as I didn't care for the holiday of New Year's Eve/Day, I am very enthusiastic for this month and this year!  I have been saying "January" to so many people in regards to the due date.  Well, here we are!  We made it!  I thought I'd feel more ready than this but something is holding me back and I think it is the idea of having TWO little people to be responsible for living in the house.  I try giving myself pep talks daily - lots of people do this, you can do this!

I got to hold a 3 week old, 6 pound, baby today.  That really got me excited.  But I also recognize that the baby I am carrying is probably already bigger than that one!  Yikes! 

Finlay is really starting to get that the baby is going to be born soon and live with us at home.  I asked him if he would snuggle and love the baby when it is born.  He said, emphatically, "Yep" and proceeded to drape his "Eee" (blankie) over my belly and try to stick his "Dodder" (soother) into my belly-button.  How cute is that? 

I missed a few pictures from the last days of 2012.  We must have switched memories cards by accident  but I found them!

Here is Fin asking the "Practor" to help his "back hurt."  He loved the little massage he got and kept asking for more.  His back was perfect, no adjustment needed, but it was nice to play!

Finlay is loving his new easel and paints!  He has already made a few masterpieces.

Gramps reading to Finlay in the morning.

More painting!

"I bake!  I stir!  I num!"  Fin and I made tea biscuits and he even used his own little rolling pin for the dough. 

"Hey, you only have 2 more hours if you want to be born this year!"  Me and "Billy" on new year's eve.

That's a lot of baby.